Family mediation can help separating couples resolve disagreements about finances, property and children without the need to go to court. Preparing properly for your mediation session can make the process more productive and help you approach discussions with greater confidence. It will also ensure that you get the best value from each session. Here are some tips for preparing for family mediation.
- Understand what you want to achieve
Before mediation, think carefully about the issues you need to resolve. Make a list of your priorities and consider what outcomes would work for you. It can also be helpful to identify areas where you may be willing to compromise.
Try to distinguish between what is essential and what would simply be preferable. Mediation works best when both people are prepared to consider different options rather than arriving with a fixed position.
- Gather the relevant information
If your mediation involves finances, you will need accurate information about your financial circumstances. This may include details of income, savings, investments, pensions, property, mortgages, debts and other assets.
You should provide full and honest financial disclosure. Having the necessary documents available before your session can prevent unnecessary delays and ensure that discussions are based on accurate information.
For discussions about children, consider practical arrangements such as where the children will stay, holidays, school arrangements, transport and how important decisions will be made. Thinking about these issues beforehand can help you explain your proposals clearly.
- Think about the other person’s perspective
Mediation is not about winning an argument. It is an opportunity to find an agreement that works for everyone, particularly where children are involved.
Before the session, consider what concerns your former partner may have and what might be important to them. This does not mean that you have to agree with their position, but understanding it can make it easier to find workable solutions.
- Prepare emotionally
Family separation can be stressful, and mediation may involve difficult conversations. Think about what you can do to remain calm and focused during the session. If you become upset, it is perfectly acceptable to ask for a short break.
Your mediator is there to manage the process and help both participants have an opportunity to speak and be heard.
- Get advice if you need it
You can obtain legal advice before or during the mediation process. A solicitor can help you understand your legal position and advise you about any proposed agreement. You may also wish to take independent financial advice where appropriate.
Good preparation does not mean knowing exactly what the final outcome will be. It means arriving with the information, questions and willingness to explore options needed to make mediation as effective as possible.
The better prepared you are, the more likely it is that your mediation session will lead towards a practical and lasting agreement.